The viewpoint that I’ve gotten the most mileage out of in my life has been the viewpoint that every perspective is valid. I see disagreeing with someone, or try to see it, less as an I’m right, you’re wrong kind of thing, and more a trying on of various viewpoints and seeing if a particular perspective is applicable to your particular time and space, or rather if you should let yourself be modified by the ways in which it’s not applicable.
I adopted this approach I think from years of living in the bible belt and having otherwise rational loving people supporting ideologies that I found to be cruel and sometimes hateful. But instead of focusing on the latter point, I found it to my advantage to examine what these ideologies were doing for the people. What does the role of christ play in an abused divorcee’s life? Or what does all of these rules about sin and guilt have to do with a person who watches South Park and listens to crum bum music?
You come to understand that though these ideologies are somewhat monolithic they do mean diffrent things to diffrent people, and what they mean to those people are the important things because they allow you to learn about another human being and become closer to the experience of being alive. Additionally you can kind of learn how the brain works and why it does certain things and what advantages they can serve for you.
For instance I’ve found sometimes it IS useful to have a god to pray to, sometimes it is useful to feel a divine presence around you. Othertimes you might be best served to just consult your iphone.
The key is to remain flexible, and be able to have a tool kit which allows you to change and shift through any number of mind states to get the most out of an experience in front of you.
Sort of to that end be aware of the dogma, but don’t run from it. It’s there for specific reasons which can be very useful. Figure them out and trip your mind into an infinity of dolphin splooge laundromats.
Of course all of this is itself a certain way of thinking that requires it’s own kind of disciplines. But it’s the one that is most useful for me because I’m very flighty/curious, while still being quite ritualized and analytical. I also think it’s because I’m naturally empathetic/paranoid, and this is a positive way of keeping me from living in a world where I need a tin foil hat.